I recently found out I'm expecting at 45

Hi, I'm new to this site, and thank god I found it!

I have just recently found out that I am expecting at the age of 45. I've been a single/divorced mom for 15 years with my 17 year old son, and was just getting used to the idea that soon I would be an empty nester.

I have been in a moderately new dating relationship for the last few months, but have been good and best friends with this man for the last 10 years, so he's really my best friend and not a stranger at all.

I recently had a positive pregnancy test, and we are both dumbfounded and shocked, but are relatively happy about things. We both admitted that if it had to happen, we are glad it happened to us, and not with other people we had dated in the past.

He has a 15 year old and 16 year old from a previous marriage, girl and boy respectively. I am a bit embarrassed because I've been an OB [obstetrical] nurse for the last 13 years, and I know people will surely comment that of all people I should have known better.

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The oldest patient I had was an Indian woman that was InVitro and she had beautiful twin girls, a new mom at the age of 50.

My mother also had her last child at the age of 46, her 7th child, and had her first at the age of 30, so I know I have good genetics for this.

I am a healthy, active 45 year old, and I even had a patient comment that she thought I was 35 instead of 45 years old.

I am going to enjoy the looks on my younger OB [obstetrical] patient's faces when they discover that their 45 year old nurse is expecting too, and perhaps I can give hope to those older women who are trying to conceive.

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I opted out of testing during my pregnancy (at age 46). In fact, I opted out of all the tests (Amnio, AFP test, etc.) except the level 2 ultrasound. I only did that one as I wanted to know whether I was having a boy or girl. I decided the tests would make me worry more, and I was already stressed enough.

My daughter will soon be 6 years old. She is healthy and totally normal (on the bright side of normal, Praise God). Even at 45, the "odds" are still in your favor!!

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I had first child at 42, and second at 45 (6 weeks after I turned 45), so it is possible. I was lucky it was all natural.

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I am not currently pregnant, but I had a child at 43 and another at 46, so I know all about the risks. They have early screening tests now that can help to ease your mind.

I'm sure your husband will be thrilled at being a daddy again. It may be a shock at first, but most men are big kids anyway and love being around little ones.

Good luck to you, take care of yourself. It's a little tougher at your age, but very possible, and very likely that you will have a healthy normal baby.

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