22 wks, 46y, praying this is the one

After having my son at 40 (so easy, no problems!), trying to have #2 has not been so simple. Started trying at 43, had 3 miscarriages over the next year.

My RE [reproductive endocrinologist] said he couldn't offer me better odds that Mother Nature, because I didn't have a problem getting pregnant, just had old eggs and he couldn't fix that, so advised to keep trying on my own.

I tried to view my miscarriages as validation that my body was still working, rather than failures of old age, and that with patience the "right egg" would come along.

Finally looks like it has, am 22 weeks, amnio and Level 2 ultrasound fine, and praying this is the one! (am 46 now).

If you want it badly enough, keep trying because you never know when it will work out (and if you don't try, for sure it won't happen)!!

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My RE [reproductive endocrinologist] spouts the stats, but my wonderful nurse midwife who does my check-ups too, says "Go for it!"

She has a large number of women over 40 who are pregnant, and had two 50 year old pregnant moms when I saw her in October.

In 2004 she told me that the stats for Down's Syndrome are higher in younger gals because more of them are having babies!!!!

And now the recommendations are that ALL women have NT [Nuchal translucency scan] because of the large number of those under 35 having Down's Syndrome babies diagnosed!!!!

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Following a discussion here some time ago about the value of success stories one hears/reads about, it just occurred to me that I personally know 5 women of my generation who had children over 40 (plus my grandmother, who had her 2nd child at 40).

For three of them, it was their first child. I know none of them well enough to ask whether they had medical assistance of some kind, but the odds are they did not use DE [donor egg], which is illegal in this country.

I also personally know 2 women who conceived in their late thirties, which came as an absolute surprise to them, as both had been told by their OB/gyns [obstetrician / gynecologist] that they could not have children (and neither of them particularly wanted to, as far as I know).

This is just among the people I personally know - a very small sample, one might say. So indeed there must be many more of those over 40 success stories out there than one may think.

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My grandmother got pregnant with my mother at age 46! This was in the 50's, and my poor grandmother thought she had no periods because she was reaching the menopause stage.

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I have older parents (they were 45 having me), and wouldn’t change it for the world. They are now pushing 80, and are really fit, active and healthy.

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